A few days ago I woke up and knew it was time.

Time to put fingers to keyboard and start to write, start to move through this phase of my journey in the same way I have negotiated so many other moments.

Nadine Gordimer famously remarked that “writing is making sense of life.”

So, tonight I begin to make sense of this life of mine and write about divorce.

Divorce is all around us, if the statistics are to be believed, and it is and was certainly all around me.  My grandmother, mother, family members, friends, colleagues.  But as much as one human being can appreciate and empathize with another’s experience, it is not until you are in the throes of it yourself that you begin to truly understand.

Six months into the process, I most certainly cannot proclaim to be an expert nor do I yet have words of wisdom to impart.

What I do have is six months of learning and, fortunately, now, just as much hope.

17972018_10210696807670594_2708914811719925191_oThree weeks ago today, for the first time, I climbed a mountain–a small mountain, but a mountain nonetheless.  The boundless metaphors I encountered on that journey paled in comparison to that moment in the car, driving forward and back to my family, when I realized I had done something I never before thought possible and that there actually and still resides within me a strength sufficient to keep climbing and now to start writing.

For them, of course

But also for me.






16 thoughts on “Climbing

  1. I am so sorry. I am 18 months in, and almost done.. Although it was my choice, it still hurts. It’s still raw, and I still mourn.. I feel you!!

  2. We missed your writing and we miss you too. Hang in there Chiquita. I’ve been through it too and it is rough. However, the others are so right. You will come out the other end eventually. As Winston Churchill allegedly said, “If you are going through hell, keep going.” 🙂 one of my favorites.

  3. I am so sorry you are imparting on this new journey. However to use writing as a way to express yourself and explore healing if a wonderful pursuit. It is a painful journey, be selfish and surround yourself with positive and supportive people that put the needs you and the boys have as you start this journey. Much love to you all

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